December 10, 2010

• All the Single Ladies

  When you are married to a pastor, people talk to you about their stuff. 

  Especially marital stuff. 

  We're always glad when people talk about their marital stuff cause divorce is out of control.  A lot of people are getting divorces and a lot of other people are thinking about it.  So yeah, it's really good to talk about the marital stuff.  Especially if it means preventing divorce.

  Nearly always, we counsel marrieds or engageds.  So, If we could just back up a little there's something I'd like for all the single ladies to know.

  

  Dear Single Ladies,

  Keep in mind two things before you choose your husband to be. 

  1.  Don't marry a loser. 

  If your mom and dad doesn't like him, there's a good reason.  Your special guy needs to be a hard worker.  Husbands and fathers are required to do a lot of selfless things and working hard is the basis of it all.  Most of all, he needs to love Jesus.  I mean REALLY love Jesus.  Not saved = Not an option.  If he fails even one of these requirements - do not marry him even date him.

  2.  Marriage is forever and ever. 

  There'll be days that you don't feel "in love".  That's where the commitment comes in.  When you say your marriage vows you are committing to love him and honor him for always.  Even on the days that you aren't feeling it.  It's up to you to lead your heart.  Feeling are fickle.  They can't be trusted.  Our feelings are impacted by our monthly cycles, how well we've rested, stress of paying the bills, car troubles, the amount of laundry waiting for us, bad hair days...you see my point?  Our feelings are easily impacted by our circumstances.  Don't trust how you feel.  Lead your heart.  Tell it how to "feel".  Everyday choose to love your guy.  Choose to show him kindness. 

  Sincerely,

  Happily Married for 14 Years

  P.S. Weddings are overrated!  Have a modest one and keep the money for the honeymoon! 

   

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