July 25, 2011

  • Choosing Submission

    (Repost from March 2010)

    Yes, I said the "s" word.  (Pretty please don't roll your eyes and click off to another blog...)  No, I am not brainwashed.  Yes, I am educated (college degree and all). 

    I want to share with you what I've learned about submission.  Not from books and teachings.  Even though, that's great and important.  I want to share my own life experience. 

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    Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Matthew 6:26

    Not long after our second anniversary, my husband was praying about a job change that would cause us to move to another state.  I remember him asking me if I trusted him to make this decision.  Giving that decision over to him was difficult for me but I knew in my heart it was the right thing to do.  I wanted him to be the head of our home.  I chose submission.  

    My submission brought about even more accountability for the Chief to submit to God.  He shared with me later, that he felt more conviction than ever to be truly seeking God's will for our lives.  He was accountable to God for himself and his family.  That thought made me realize that the my part was easier.  I did have to die to my selfishness and trust my loving husband to make good choices.  But by doing so, the Chief was responsible, accountable to God for our well-being. 

    That is not to say it has been all "pie in the sky".  It hasn't.  We've had problems.  We've made mistakes.  But through it all, I've done my best to submit to his authority and he has done his best to seek God's will.  We are confident that following God's plan has been a credit to our marriage.  My husband respects my opinion.  Sometimes he has gone the way I advised.  Other times he hasn't.  I've learned to trust him.  I'm very cautious by nature.  He is much more willing to take risks.  Had I made all the decisions, we'd have missed out on some great opportunities. 

    “Submission is knowing how to duck so God can hit your husband.”

    Dr. Tony Evans

    I think that’s what God is waiting on wives to do: get out of the way. When we stop trying to control everything, some really neat things start to happen. 

Comments (5)

  • I needed to hear this, being the control freak I am.

  • Ouch! This really hit home! I love that quote by Tony Evans! Very funny, but soo true!

  • stop trying to control everything - yep that hit home...ouch. but very timely. we heard in our sermon yesterday 'you can't control your circumstances but you can control your reaction to them. you are responsible for YOU.' submission is something that i've struggled with as i consider the possibility of marriage in the future one day, and i think that many of us being born into the 21st century (depending upon our upbringing) have a bit of a struggle with it. in no way do i think that God has called us to be doormats to our husbands every whim (which some portray it as) but i think that you have done a great job of explaining how it should work in the proper level.with him responsible to the Lord and for his family, and taking your opinion into account but our necessity to 'get out of the way' and let God do his work. its so hard when I want to be in control SOOOO much. such a refreshing post. thank you for sharing.

  • Good thoughts   And I love that quote!

  • The world has made submission an ugly word when in fact God wanted it to be a gift for us. As a wife, it has been a hard lesson to learn (still learning, as a matter of fact) but I am slowly realizing that my life is much simpler if I practice submission. Less worry, less stress--woot! Lol!

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